Facts about enabling
Fact: Enabling is when you don't allow another person to face the consequences of their actions
Fact: When you keep stepping in and cleaning up the consequences of the problem drinkers problem behavior, you enable the problem drinker to continue drinking comfortably without having to face any consequences
Fact: If you continue to enable and try to spare the problem drinker the consequences of their drinking, it may avert or reduce the very crisis that would prompt them to seek help
Fact: Enabling is not letting a person take responsibility for their behavior
Fact: Enabling is making excuses for another person or covering up for them
Fact: Alcoholism can be fed and made worse by loved ones enabling the alcoholic
Fact: Consequences are not allowed to happen because loved ones are too busy 'helping'
There is great love in accepting the alcoholic as a person trapped in an overpowering illness. Enabling doesn't really show that you care, it just shows that you are not thinking or acting rationally any more. So what can you do instead? You can learn how to stop enabling by going to Al-Anon meetings and open AA meetings, they are the people who can help you to see the whole situation more clearly.
Al-Anon and AA in Bermuda:
Al-Anon in Bermuda - Tel: 441 236 8606
Al-Anon in Bermuda - Website: www.ncbermudaafg.org
Al-Anon International - Tel: 888 425 2666
Al-Anon International - Website: www.al-anon.alateen.org/english.html
AA in Bermuda - Tel: 441 297 0965
AA in Bermuda - Website: www.aa.bm
Al-Anon Meetings in Bermuda:
Sunday 7:00pm-8:00pm Caron Foundation, Smiths
Monday 7:00pm-8:00pm Caron Foundation, Smiths
Monday 8:00pm-9:30pm St. Peters Church Hall, St. Georges
Tuesday 12:30pm-1:45pm Mechanics Bldng, Church St, Penthouse Floor
Wednesday 5:30pm-6:30pm St. Paul’s Church, Paget
Friday 5:30pm-6:30pm St. Paul’s Church, Paget
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